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I think a general statement that we can all agree to is that people use social media to benefit no one other than themselves, only presenting what they want others to see. There is a sort of narcissism that comes with using social media. We want to show the world what is going on in our lives that is working well for us, not necessarily the down falls. This ends up with us feeling a sense of gratification when we get social approval via likes and comments on what we post.
There is no selfless good deed, especially in the digital realm. Any money you donate via Facebook or crowdfunding website makes you feel good about yourself. Even if you make your name anonymous for the donation, you still end up feeling good about what you did.
Considering we can all recognize and realize that we appear to be these awesome people with great lives, recently people are calling others out for not being “real” enough. YouTube and Instagram come to mind when I think of this.
Famous YouTuber Shane Dawson used to do comedic skits and random videos on fast food, life hacks and conspiracy theories. In 2018, Dawson became one of the fastest growing YouTubers due to his different docuseries and projects which went into the lives of other famous YouTubers to show his audience the “real” them. The people that were featured in his series in 2018 were YouTubers who were hated or had recent drama/controversy. He pushed them to show their “true” selves to the world and that would make audiences like them more.
Though Shane Dawson’s docuseries are fun and interesting to watch, are they really successful? Many of the YouTubers who are featured on Shane’s channel grow exponentially as they gain millions of subscribers overnight due to the limelight. So although Shane is searching for the “truth” and “realness” behind these YouTubers, he is only helping them gain popularity and stardom, even if it’s unintentional.
The video below is a part of one of Shane Dawson’s docuseries as he goes to the house of Bunny Meyer, known on YouTube as grav3yardgirl. Meyer’s channel was considered ‘dying’ as her viewership went down. Dawson tries to help her remedy that by showing her “real” life.
People on Instagram get called out for using FaceTune to slightly alter how they appear in photos, for “flexing” (showing off one’s wealth) and being too “picture perfect.”
So, on both platforms, people are being called out for not being “real” enough.
But then there are social media stars like Trisha Paytas. She posted a video of her crying on her kitchen floor over her boyfriend’s infidelity and in the comments, people are calling her a nutcase and insinuating her feelings aren’t valid. I personally believe Trisha Paytas’s video was an actual representation of how she felt. For someone who is used to taking her camera out and documenting her life, I didn’t question the validity of the emotions she “portrayed” in her video.
The video has since been deleted from Trisha’s channel, but below is a re-upload..
So, why did people say her feelings weren’t valid? Why did people claim she was being over dramatic? Perhaps not many people would post a video of themselves having an emotional breakdown on their kitchen floor, but I am sure many people would feel the same way as Trisha if they were in her situation. Were they calling her over dramatic because of her large following? Possibly.
The video of her crying on the kitchen floor became a meme and is now a part of Trisha’s “brand.” Though people called her over dramatic and left her other nasty comments, Trisha rose in popularity due to her mental break and eventually was a part of the UK’s version of Big Brother. Within a year, she became international.
So, one could argue that being real on social media allows you to rise in popularity, but is this really being “real” if you’re gaining followers? Or does the popularity negate your realness? Food for thought.
Many people post on sites like Instagram and YouTube to get some sense of gratification. In this day of age, people can make millions (billions, for a few) simply by making a post. Other people watching them become richer and richer fuels behavior to please other.
Sites like Twitter are not exempt from narcissism. In Jim Brown’s article, “Unhealthy Infrastructures,” he takes a look at quote tweeting. This is what I like to call, “Drawing upon your audience to make your arguments for you.” People who are debating something may use quote tweeting to draw their “opponents” responses to their audience. In this way, Twitter has basically become a room where everyone is screaming at each other.
People who quote tweets to their audience is like a bounty hunter letting their dogs take chase. Snarky comments to one another become public and those who quote tweets are basically saying to their audience, “Look at how funny I am” or “I can make sick burns.” Thus, it’s all about self-gratification.
Here is an example of a very intellectual argument made via quote tweeting:
Now, I’m not disregarding the upsides of quote tweeting, which include richer conversation, context, clarity, etc. People use it to make funny jokes, political statements and voice their disgust on a subject.
Lives and careers have been destroyed by quote tweets in one fellow swoop (Laura Lee and Kezia, for example).
Not only can social media destroy careers, but it allows others to receive some type of gratification by participating in their fall, i.e. “dogpiling.”
Though social media allows us to have conversations with people that we might not have an opportunity to meet in real life, some of these platforms hinder the opportunity as we are not talking to these people face-to-face. We do not know what some people are going through or even look like, thus they have a type of omnipresent veil over them. It’s easier to dehumanize someone when you’ve never seen them before. This makes it easy for people to name-call, bully, threaten and dogpile. An environment that is dehumanizing can lead to a toxic environment where conversation seems impossible.
Now let me step down from my soapbox and stop talking about how social media is the root of evil like your grandma, but I beg you to take a step back before the next time you post something on your social media. Ask yourself, “Why am I posting this? What’s the point?”
I wanted to write one of these a while ago but I forgot (oops) anyway here it is... I currently have the iphone SE in Gold and its my favourite phone yet - It has a high quality camera, a very clear screen and isn't too big for me to hold in one hand.When you first turn on my phone screen the first thing you see is my lock screen. I took this photo in St. Ives in Cornwall and the view was so pretty and I love this photo. Also all of my best photos are now for sale on Foap and Marked shot now for commercial use which are both apps that you'll see later.
The next photo is my home screen...
As you can see I have everything in neat little folders to keep it organised. The first app is messages which I believe is self explanatory I guess. Then my calendar where I schedule all of my upcoming blog posts. The next few are are photos, camera, weather, clock, music, notes and settings - these are all apps that my phone came with.
Trisha Paytas Only Fans Link
I next have the Natwest online banking app so that I can monitor my spending but lets be real as soon as I receive money it's gone already.
Then 'Followers' which I use to track my followers on Instagram. To be fully unlocked it will need a few in app purchases but it tracks;
- Users who unfollowed you,
- Users who are not following you back,
- Users who have blocked you,
- Ghost followers/ Inactives
- Users who have deleted your comments.
Then I have YouTube - I find it's easier just to have the app than to watch from safari. I watch quite a bit of YouTube to be honest...
My favourites are;
- Shane Dawson
- Tanya Burr
- Trisha Paytas
- Onision
- Roxxsaurus
- The Psychic Twins.
After YouTube I have a folder... In this folder I have my photo editing apps. (sorry I never labeled my folders - ooopppss) In this folder I have FaceTune and Phonto.
I use FaceTune to touch up any photos that need fixing. I often use it to whiten the background of a photo or touch up any discolouration. FaceTune costs £4.49 in the app store but is very worth it.
Phonto is second and I use this to add text to my photos. The app comes with some basic fonts but I would recommend downloading some fonts to the app. You can do this on dafont.com and use them in the Phonto app which I think is really great! Phonto is free to download in the app store and fonts are free to download from DaFont. You can use Phonto to watermark/ title your photos for Instagram.
In the next folder I have all of my Money earning apps. Yes that's a thing... All of these 4 I use and would recommend. The first is Panel App which tracks your location and asks you questions about which shops you go to and prefer. This is really simple because you only have to open the app every few days and answer a few questions.
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The next is TV smiles which is a quiz app which I really enjoy. All you do is answer questions and give your opinion to earn 'smiles' It's really simple and I quite enjoy it. You can also download this from the app store. The cash out is extremely quick as well! I've already got 18,945 points!
Then Raffler, it's so easy. Enter daily by watching two ads and be in with the chance of upward of winning £1,000. Raffler is another app you can download from the apple store.
The last app is Shopmium and it is a cashback app for iphone. Simply purchase a product from the list; scan the recepit and products barcode to get up to 100% of the price credited to your account. So simple yet so helpful. My referral code is KFFEYMCR to get 100% cashback on a Lindor bunny after sign up.
My next folder contains;
- Amazon
- Paypal app
- The apple app store
which needs no explaining.
This folder is my 'stuff I use sometimes' folder
The gmail app is very useful except I hardly ever check my emails because I'm lazy. wow 150 notifications.
Betternet is a VPN app I use to access social media on my school wifi because my school blocks Instagram and Snapchat from the WiFi. When using Betternet it slows down the WiFi but unblocks everything which is very helpful.
WhatsApp is a messaing app which i use to connect with those abroud or even those with android phones (as they don't have imessage.)
Memrise is an app I use for school because my Spanish homework is set on here and I must get a certain amount of 'points' every week to complete the homework.
The next app is Merged and it's a game where you must match the colours to create new blocks. When you run out of space the game ends. My current high score is 879 (if you have the app what's your score?)
Trisha Paytas Schizophrenia
The last folder is just apps where I sell my photos which aren't very interesting but there is Markedshot and Foap.All of the remaining apps are my social medias.
Spotify - basicjazSnapchat - basic-jaz (my public snapchat because I dont give out my personal snapchat)
Instagram - basicjaz
hope this post was somewhat interesting,
- basicjaz ♡